Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.

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It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese man, but it is still the BIG exception!

Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.

It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.

All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.

You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.

Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.

Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.

One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!

In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.

Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.

For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!